Be You

There was an add campaign by Dr. Pepper that launched in 2002. “Be you. Drink Dr. Pepper.” Sounds great, right? It’s catchy and points to the American ideal of being an individual. Take a closer look. Be you… Drink Dr. Pepper. Problem: I don’t drink Dr. Pepper. I never have. I moved from RC Cola to Coke and then Diet Coke. I’ve never been a “pepper.”

I’ve always been a Ginger.

That’s why it’s so important for me to share this next principle for healthy dating relationships.

Principle #2: Be yourself.

I know it sounds totally cheesy and like it’s part of a school assembly, but hear me out.

I’m a random, unique individual.  I know that.  My family certainly knows that.  My friends know that.  I’ve been in a few relationships where I honestly felt like I had to alter my personality and interests for a guy.  I felt nervous about the relationship in the first place and so I tried to over-compensate by picking up new hobbies and even changed the way I dressed.  It wasn’t fun.  I was terrified that I was going to do something wrong to end our relationship.  It was so much pressure.

But now I can honestly say that I am in a relationship where I can be the quirky, ridiculous dreamer that I was created to be.  My husband not only accepts my goofiness, he loves it.  (He tells me this frequently.)  Can I tell you how freeing it is to be loved for just being me?

Question for you:  If you had to do something to get a guy to notice you or accept you in the first place, what are you going to have to do to keep the guy?

My friend, please don’t be in a relationship where you have to constantly second-guess yourself.  Be confident in who you are.  If you constantly worry that you aren’t smart enough, funny enough, cute enough, athletic enough… whatever – it’s not the relationship for you.  You deserve to be cherished for who you are, not who you are pretending to be.

“I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way.
What you have done is wonderful.
I know this very well.”

Psalm 139:14, NCV

Be YOU.  Embrace the you He created.


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  • Shannonmichaelis

    I love everything about this. Following…

  • As you probably know by now, my husband is a laid-back free spirit, and I’m more of the uptight planner. The other night we were watching Modern Family and Claire (wife) was telling Phil (husband) about how she hoped for the best for their laid-back, quirky son who was a lot like Phil himself. Phil turns to Claire and says, “You know why else he’s gonna be ok? Because somewhere out there is a little girl who’s making lists and labeling bins…and he’s gonna find her.”

    All we could do is laugh, because Chris found a girl who is always making lists and labeling bins (I literally did that last weekend) and we are the perfect compliment to each other.

  • Anonymous

    Amen, Amen and Amen!!!!