Living Your [Love] Story

Dear Ginger,
Recently several of Christian bloggers and friends on Facebook have been sharing links to a blog post that talks about “How to live a great love story.”  I was intrigued by the title, but was very disappointed to find the actual content of the article extremely… lacking. Surely there is more that a single Christian female can to do prepare herself for marriage (if that day ever comes) than to 1) not be a slut, and 2) sit tight and wait (and cry yourself to sleep while you wait, apparently!), which is what the advice seemed to boil down to.

Do you have any practical advice for what Christian singles can do to prepare for a future spouse?


Dearest V,

Thanks for your question and candor… it’s real nice, ya see? :)  The specific post you referred to has actually been taken down by the author for various reasons- but I still wanted to address your question because I feel like it is going to spark some great discussion.  (Fingers crossed.)

1.  Although I do think the article made some great points, I also believe that there is so much more that can be said on this topic. (Duh.)

2.  I was both excited and apprehensive to tackle this question.  Let’s face it, no one wants to be the married lady trying to give advice on how to live out being single.  It’s not that I don’t have the experience or desire to speak about the topic, I just don’t want to EVEREVEREVEREVER come across condescending or whatever other word you would like to fill in the blank.  I am humbly coming to you with my suggestions, story, and what I’ve discovered from scripture.

3.  Know that I’m spending a lot of time researching, reading, and praying before I post each day.  Today’s is just the start.  I hope you’ll stick with me throughout the entire week.

4.  That being said – – here’s the first video…

Live Your Story from Ginger Ciminello on Vimeo.

You still with me?

I think I often became so weighed down with the desire to have a relationship in my life, that I forgot to actually LIVE MY LIFE!  Don’t fall into that same trap.  Remember that you are called to live, love, and believe right where you are.

“And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.” 1 Corinthians 7:17, The Message


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  • Sarah D.

    Wow, I am just catching up on this latest blogosphere frenzy.  Regarding the original post referenced in the question, I was reading a great response at that had this critique: I am concerned by the fact that [the post] defines worthy men by their character and worthy women by their sexuality.  Thanks, Ginger, for keeping the heart of your message focused on how we as women can build a strong character and can write our own story, all with God’s help.  I believe it’s true that being able to love others wholeheartedly depends on being able to love yourself.  And being able to love yourself depends on knowing yourself intimately, seeing yourself with God’s eyes (and under His grace).  I would advise single women (of which I am one, and have been for 29 years) to spend time getting to know yourself.  This self-knowledge leads to self-respect, which I personally think is a better angle to approach any concerns about how we as women might handle ourselves sexually or emotionally in relationships (as opposed to the angles of guilt and weakness that seem to be permeating much of the discussion on the original post).

    • Anonymous

      Dear Friend – thank you for all the links you sent my way today! This is proving to be quite the topic and quite the discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. I agree – know yourself- who you are and Whose you are first and foremost!