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I throw around the word overwhelmed like it’s my key word lately. I don’t want it to be my go-to verb, but it seems to sit on the tip of my tongue and the forefront of my mind. “This is so overwhelming.”

I know our lives don’t look exactly the same during this season, but I do know what it is like to be overwhelmed in LOTS of different life seasons.

Finals week. Rehearsals. Auditions. New School. Practice. Social events. Projects. Appointments. Tasks. Responsibilities. E-mail inbox. Chores. Relationships. Health. Exercise. Packing. Waiting. Dating. Planning. Lack of sleep. Correspondance. Dreams. Goals. Training. Conflict.

You get the idea.

This week I want to examine how to take the over out of overwhelmed. I think it can be done.

“I know you can be overwhelmed, and you can be underwhelmed, but can you ever just be whelmed?”       – 10 Things I Hate About You

Q: What currently makes you feel overwhelmed?

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Ginger

Friday Finds: More Favorites

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I share a lot of purposeful blog posts, but every once in a while I enjoy kicking back and just sharing regular life with you. This is one of those days. I hope that’s okay with you. It has been a mile-marker of a week for me. I finished a MAJOR project (WOOT), stayed up way past my bedtime attending a Mumford & Sons Concert (outside, in Arizona, in June – yes, yes it was 99 degrees at 9pm), and then hit our one-month countdown for the arrival of baby girl. HOLY MOLY. You get the picture. I’m taking a cue from Maria Von Trapp this morning.

Without further delay, here are my favorite things from the past week/month…

 

1. A backyard concert of Awake My Soul

This has always been my favorite Mumford Song, and after the concert last night… its’ my favorite, favorite, favorite. I loved hearing 20,000 voices sing out

“In these bodies we will live,
in these bodies we will die
Where you invest your love, 
you invest your life…”

The dogs singing along, the rich harmonies… I thoroughly enjoy this little video.

 

 

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2. Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst

Check out the subtitle of this book: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions.

I feel like there has been something good to glean out of every chapter of this book. It’s only taken me a year to get around to reading it, but I feel as if it’s entered my life at just the right time.

“I can’t control the things that happen to me each day, but I can control how I think about them. I can say to myself, ‘I have a choice to have destructive or constructive thoughts right now. I can wallow in what’s wrong and make things worse, or I can ask god for a better perspective to help me see good even when I don’t feel good.'” – Lysa TerKeurst, Unglued

 

3. A blog post by Emily P. Freeman

I enjoy just about everything Emily posts on Chatting at the Sky, but this entry keeps coming to my mind.

“Why You Need to Tell Someone How Scared You Are.”

Intriguing, right? I don’t want to give the whole post away, but suffice it to say, it’s definitely worth you taking the time to click on the link and read the entire entry! Here’s a little taste: Sometimes it’s good to let them see you sweat even when it feels awkward. Fear seems to grow in the darkness of isolation. But when you expose it in the light of community, it tends to lose power. Sharing my fear is often the path that leads to courage.

 

 3. Mentoring Girls 101 from the LivingProof Blog

If you are involved in mentoring teens, tweens, or even college students – this post has some great basic reminders for those relationships. Sometimes the idea of mentoring or discipleship can feel overwhelming, but Lindsee shares some practical steps to get you started. These aren’t the ONLY ways to mentor, disciple, or build a relationship – just some suggestions!

 

4. The Dollar Section at Target

If you haven’t been to Target in the last week, let me be the first to tell you that there are some great $1 finds. I picked up a new coupon book, some stationary, a cosmetic bag, and a bunch of odds and ends to have on hand for gift baskets.

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Thanks to Target, my friends can no longer make fun of me for carrying my lip gloss and lotions in a ziplock bag. Thanks to the brand new photo app #ABeautifulMess for making my kitchen floor look WAY more exciting. (And also, fyi, it’s a great app.)

5. A post from The Storyline Blog

I wasn’t sure whether I was going to read this entry based on the title: “A Question to Ask When Faced with Conflict.”

I figured the answer was simply: fight or flight… cover an offense with love or confront in love.

But then I read the incredible story of Leon Fleisher. And now you should be clicking over to read about this world-famous pianist and a question from the Benedictine Monks: “God, what do you have for me here?”

 

6. A small medium large Strawberry Slush from Sonic.

I know there are about 1,000 more exciting choices for your next Sonic run, but there is something so cooling and comforting about this drink. Perhaps my preference is related to the high of 106 and being 8 months pregnant, but who cares. It’s good. And now I feel the impulse to drive to Sonic. ;)

 

Stay cool, my friends! Happy Friday.

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Ginger

Learning to Say “No Thank You”

I’m honored to be guest-posting over at Single Roots Blog today!

 

How to graciously say “no thank you” to another date.

I moved to Arizona from my beloved state of Texas in the fall of 2006. I came alone, not knowing anyone. Eventually I did what any single and adventurous young woman might do; I signed up for online dating.

I actually met my husband through online dating in 2010, but my first go-around wasn’t quite as successful. My first date was with a very nice man who loved God and others. He just also happened to be… clingy? Yes. Clingy. I received a laminated poem on our second date. When I broke things off after the third date there were tears. His. Not mine.

To keep reading follow this link over to Single Roots to read the rest of this post!

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Ginger

Strained Friendship

Dear Ginger

I have this friend that started cutting herself the other day. I told my teacher at school and now my friend hates me for telling. I don’t know what to do because I really want to keep her as a friend. –A

Dear A,

I want you to know how brave you are. Thank you for taking the time to send in your question, and for caring enough about your friend to make sure she gets the help that she really needs. I am so sorry that you are hurting because of this situation.

While it feels like your action damaged your friendship at the moment, your courage to seek help for your friend is actually the best thing you could have done for her.

The truth is that many teens cope with the hard stuff in their lives by keeping those things to themselves. I know because that’s exactly what I did. I didn’t like the way my body looked and I was desperate for attention, so I began hurting my body in secret. The first step in my healing was the day that I told someone about my dark secret. By bringing my hurt and struggle out in the open it gave that struggle less power. Satan loves to keep us trapped in our secrets.

I do think there are some things you can consider as you work toward healing in this friendship.

  1. Pray for your friend. She needs you to be her friend, but more than anything – she needs to turn to the Great Healer, God. Her hurts are deeper than just on her skin. Cutting is an indication that her heart is in so much pain. Pray for your friend every time that you think of her.
  2. Give her time and space. As you give her a chance to determine how she really feels, continue to develop your relationship with the Lord. Why don’t you try reading some of these verses and then journal about what they have to say regarding friendships, hurt, and healing: Psalm 27:14 and 147:3, Proverbs 12:26 and 18:24, Philippians 4:6-7, 1 Peter 5:7, 1 John 4:7.
  3. Don’t gossip about the situation. I applaud you for telling a teacher. I am so proud of you for speaking up because I know it probably wasn’t easy. But I also want to remind you that this isn’t something you need to share with other friends at school. The quickest way to create an even bigger wedge in this friendship is to have rumors flying about your friend that somehow started because of something you said.
  4. Be ready to listen when she’s finally ready to talk again. I know from experience how much you might want to interject and explain all your reasons for telling, but she’s going to need ample time to explain why she feels hurt and even betrayed.
  5. Be genuine! Tell you friend how you feel about the situation and why it was so important for you to tell the teacher. Make sure you never make her feel as though you are the perfect one and she’s the one with issues. We all have problems and we all experience and process pain in different ways.
  6. Be empathetic. Make sure your friend knows that you care. If we move past pain too quickly and want things “to just get back to normal” before we have time to process them, we miss out on an opportunity to give love to a friend who is really hurting.
  7. Make sure YOU are sharing with a trusted adult about how you are handling the situation. This is going to be a challenging time, especially if your relationship is strained for a while. Open up and share with a teacher, youth leader, counselor or parent about what you are thinking and feeling.

A – thank you for being the kind of friend that helps rather than just stands by and watches someone fall.

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, NLT

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Ginger