V’s question about practical advice prior to marriage led me to remember all of the hurdles that I needed to overcome personally before I could consider uniting myself with someone else. Here’s a quote from Neil Clark Warren: “Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married. Too often we bring our unexamined selves into our marriage relationship.“
As you prepare for a lifetime commitment, it’s so important to come to a place where you are at peace with your own past. Here’s what I mean…
Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
The Bible takes it a step further and says, “Test yourselves to make sure you are solid in the faith. Don’t drift along taking everything for granted. Give yourselves regular checkups… We don’t just put up with our limitations; we celebrate them, and then go on to celebrate every strength, every triumph of the truth in you. We pray hard that it will all come together in your lives.” (2 Corinthians 13:5-9, The Message)
I can’t say that self-examination is going to be overly enjoyable, but I do think it’s necessary in order to prepare for (and participate in) a healthy and loving relationship.
What do you think?